Couples Therapy in Mount Kisco & Westchester, NY
The dance is the problem. Neither partner is.
Couples can become caught in painful patterns of pursuing, withdrawing, criticizing, defending, or shutting down. Over time, these patterns can obscure the love and connection that brought them together.
What Couples Come to Therapy For
Communication difficulties and recurring conflict
Emotional disconnection
Trust and vulnerability
Major life transitions
Pursuing and withdrawing patterns
Intimacy and sexuality
Addiction or recovery within the relationship
Changing needs in a long-term marriage or partnership
Session details
Fee
$350 per couples session
Where
In person in Mount Kisco, or telehealth throughout New York State
Insurance
Out-of-network; superbills provided
First Step
Complimentary consultation
Relationships Need Room to Change
Making space for each person to become more fully themselves.
In a long-term marriage or partnership, we continue to grow and change, even when the patterns between us have remained much the same. Feelings, needs, or desires that were once difficult to recognize — or too vulnerable to express — may begin asking to be heard.
Sometimes this happens during a transition such as becoming parents, empty nesting, retirement, illness, or aging. At other times, something that has been silenced or accommodated for many years simply can no longer remain unspoken.
It can feel enormously vulnerable to reveal something new to the person who knows us best. We may fear hurting them, disappointing them, disrupting the relationship, or discovering that there isn't room for this newly expressed part of ourselves.
“A healthy relationship has the capacity to evolve.”
It can make room for each person to become more fully themselves without requiring the other person to remain exactly who they have always been.
Couples therapy can provide a place to bring these emerging needs into the relationship with greater safety — to help each partner listen beneath the words, understand what is being asked for, and discover whether the relationship can expand to hold more of both people.
How Couples Therapy Works
Therapy helps us understand what happens between you when things go wrong — and create new ways of reaching, hearing, and responding to one another.
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Attachment Theory
Attachment Theory helps us understand why we react as we do in intimate relationships. Our earliest relationships shape how we experience love, trust, and emotional safety. Recognizing these patterns helps couples understand the fears and longings beneath their reactions, creating greater compassion and connection.
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Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
Emotionally Focused Therapy helps couples transform the painful emotional cycles that keep them apart. By exploring the more vulnerable feelings beneath conflict and withdrawal, partners learn to reach for one another in new ways, creating greater emotional safety, trust, and intimacy.
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The Gottman Method
The Gottman Method provides practical skills for sustaining closeness, navigating differences, and repairing ruptures. Drawing on decades of relationship research, it helps couples strengthen their friendship, communicate more openly, and develop the understanding and trust that support lasting love.
Common Questions
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Yes. I work with couples on communication, recurring conflict, pursuing and withdrawing patterns, intimacy, trust, and changing needs in long-term relationships. My couples work is informed by attachment theory, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method. Couples sessions are $350.
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The first session is a chance to begin getting to know each other. We’ll talk about what brings you to therapy, what you’re hoping might change, and anything you’d like me to understand about your history. There is no pressure to tell everything at once. We’ll move at a pace that feels right for you.
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Most people begin with weekly sessions, which helps build continuity and momentum. Over time, we can adjust the frequency together based on what feels most supportive.
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I am an out-of-network provider. I provide superbills you can submit for possible reimbursement when your plan includes out-of-network mental health benefits. It can help to ask your insurance company what percentage of out-of-network therapy they reimburse before we begin.
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